Photo Credit to "It's a Sweet Life"
I'd like to edit the poster on the left a bit to read: "who loved you when you BELIEVED you weren't very lovable." and add "if they really LOVED you they would love you no matter what." and "if you loved yourself it probably wouldn't have mattered."
"Who loved you when you weren't very lovable means you are only lovable under certain conditions. That is called conditional love. Seems like the kind of love that needs to be earned. It goes like this; if you do this I'll love you. If you don't act like ____ I'll love you. I think it is better stated: I may not like what you did, said or how you behaved AND I still love you, regardless. It boils down to ACCEPTANCE and ACKNOWLEDGMENT, to name a few.
What about this: The most memorable people in your life will be the ones you remember as those who hurt you? Do you think that a child from an abusive home is going to remember their abuser as loving them? Maybe yes and maybe no. It may be argued. Nevertheless, children are very resilient and forgiving, and each handles abuse differently. I'll bet that a great number of them see the most memorable people as not being very loving AND as not believing they were or are very lovable. Bottom line is that both the abuser and abused child would greatly benefit from Self Love. Then Personal Peace {the greatest benefit of working with Comfort Coaching} could exist for all!
My reality is that if you truly love someone you don't stop loving them. You may not be "in" the relationship with a person any longer. The person maybe near or far away. You may be AWARE that an ongoing relationship is no longer in your or their best interest. None of these scenarios mean you can't still love them.
I don't have A memorable person in my life. I AM blessed by the love from everyone who has touched my life, because I believe that each crossed my path for a "Reason Season or Lifetime" {see poem below author unknown}. If they don't see it from my perspective.... that's their business....MY business first and foremost is Self Love! If I love myself I am sure to find love everywhere and in everyone I meet and if they don't find me lovable....well perhaps some healing would be in order.
Imagine: What if everyone knew about Self Love? What if everyone was AWARE that they are the person for whom they have been searching? What might the world be like then?
I am creating a new poster which reads:
I AM the most memorable person in my life
I AM always Lovable
because I was created
from Love
for Love
to Love
I AM LOVE!
If this seems difficult to grasp you may want to have a complimentary chat with me. Just contact me at www.ComfortCoachingConnection.com.
Reason, Season, or Lifetime
author unknown
People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you figure out which one it is,
you will know what to do for each person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON,
it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty;
to provide you with guidance and support.
to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend, and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desired fulfilled;their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.
Some people come into your life for a SEASON,
because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it. It is real. But only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons;
things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson,love the person,
and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
"Who loved you when you weren't very lovable means you are only lovable under certain conditions. That is called conditional love. Seems like the kind of love that needs to be earned. It goes like this; if you do this I'll love you. If you don't act like ____ I'll love you. I think it is better stated: I may not like what you did, said or how you behaved AND I still love you, regardless. It boils down to ACCEPTANCE and ACKNOWLEDGMENT, to name a few.
What about this: The most memorable people in your life will be the ones you remember as those who hurt you? Do you think that a child from an abusive home is going to remember their abuser as loving them? Maybe yes and maybe no. It may be argued. Nevertheless, children are very resilient and forgiving, and each handles abuse differently. I'll bet that a great number of them see the most memorable people as not being very loving AND as not believing they were or are very lovable. Bottom line is that both the abuser and abused child would greatly benefit from Self Love. Then Personal Peace {the greatest benefit of working with Comfort Coaching} could exist for all!
My reality is that if you truly love someone you don't stop loving them. You may not be "in" the relationship with a person any longer. The person maybe near or far away. You may be AWARE that an ongoing relationship is no longer in your or their best interest. None of these scenarios mean you can't still love them.
I don't have A memorable person in my life. I AM blessed by the love from everyone who has touched my life, because I believe that each crossed my path for a "Reason Season or Lifetime" {see poem below author unknown}. If they don't see it from my perspective.... that's their business....MY business first and foremost is Self Love! If I love myself I am sure to find love everywhere and in everyone I meet and if they don't find me lovable....well perhaps some healing would be in order.
Imagine: What if everyone knew about Self Love? What if everyone was AWARE that they are the person for whom they have been searching? What might the world be like then?
I am creating a new poster which reads:
I AM the most memorable person in my life
I AM always Lovable
because I was created
from Love
for Love
to Love
I AM LOVE!
If this seems difficult to grasp you may want to have a complimentary chat with me. Just contact me at www.ComfortCoachingConnection.com.
Reason, Season, or Lifetime
author unknown
People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you figure out which one it is,
you will know what to do for each person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON,
it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty;
to provide you with guidance and support.
to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend, and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desired fulfilled;their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.
Some people come into your life for a SEASON,
because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it. It is real. But only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons;
things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson,love the person,
and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
