As a child many of us didn't feel we had a choice as it was "Do as I say" "Because I am the boss" "Because I said so". I heard these very words from my Dad, God rest his soul, who was an autocratic disciplinarian. A quick digression: A formal public apology to the few of my 8 children who experienced a learned discipline of soap in the mouth, which I learned from my Dad to do if one used a bad word or spoke back.
Young children can learn they have a choice by letting them pick out what they want to wear without criticism. When I was little my Mom, Bless her heart would not allow me to wear red with pink & most often picked out what I was to wear.Also,food was put on my plate & I had to eat everything on it, which I did but not with out gagging, attempting to hide it in a napkin {until thank God for my dog LOL} or nearly falling asleep over my plate before being excused from the dinner table. The #1 reason why I hated vegetables until well into adulthood. As an adult when I realized I had a choice rather than not doing something because I thought I should {aka other people's rules} I couldn't make up my mind because I was so afraid of making a mistake, a wrong decision. Over the pass few yrs. while on my healing journey & creating Comfort Coaching I learned decisions come from the head & choice comes from the Heart. Additionally, in each moment we have the choice, we have free will to do what we really desire. If you don't believe this then you are actually blaming someone or something outside yourself for your circumstances aka being a victim. Giving you power away rather than being EMPOWERED! Which do you choose?
So if you are a People Pleaser then you are making choices based on others agendas. Most likely giving away so much of yourself that you feel depleted. It is very important to end this way of life as eventually you may become very resentful and or physically ill etc. If you recognize this pattern in yourself and truly desire to transform it you can. I would be honored to assist either as an Awareness coach, Certified Emotion Code Practitioner or both. Just take the next step forward & call me at 607-204-0680 for your FREE Self Love Awareness Session.
Sincerely in Spirit,
Sharon
Photo credit: Gregg Braden
Young children can learn they have a choice by letting them pick out what they want to wear without criticism. When I was little my Mom, Bless her heart would not allow me to wear red with pink & most often picked out what I was to wear.Also,food was put on my plate & I had to eat everything on it, which I did but not with out gagging, attempting to hide it in a napkin {until thank God for my dog LOL} or nearly falling asleep over my plate before being excused from the dinner table. The #1 reason why I hated vegetables until well into adulthood. As an adult when I realized I had a choice rather than not doing something because I thought I should {aka other people's rules} I couldn't make up my mind because I was so afraid of making a mistake, a wrong decision. Over the pass few yrs. while on my healing journey & creating Comfort Coaching I learned decisions come from the head & choice comes from the Heart. Additionally, in each moment we have the choice, we have free will to do what we really desire. If you don't believe this then you are actually blaming someone or something outside yourself for your circumstances aka being a victim. Giving you power away rather than being EMPOWERED! Which do you choose?
So if you are a People Pleaser then you are making choices based on others agendas. Most likely giving away so much of yourself that you feel depleted. It is very important to end this way of life as eventually you may become very resentful and or physically ill etc. If you recognize this pattern in yourself and truly desire to transform it you can. I would be honored to assist either as an Awareness coach, Certified Emotion Code Practitioner or both. Just take the next step forward & call me at 607-204-0680 for your FREE Self Love Awareness Session.
Sincerely in Spirit,
Sharon
Photo credit: Gregg Braden
