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"The Person In Front of You"

1/2/2015

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I know many think respect needs to be earned as heard from the mouths of my own babes in the past and many adults who are quick to react & judge others. It breaks my heart when I hear a derogatory remark about someone, self included {I know the rule is "don't take anything personally, yet we will until we learn how not to}. Examples of non sugar coated remarks are; "He's a dirt bag",  "She's a bitch" or " They are weird" etc.  These crude & cruel, {albeit very authentically purged in the moment} remarks are judgements. It could be argued that me making that statement is also a judgement. However, there is a huge distinction. First, we are all entitled to our own opinions, likes & dislikes that are based on our values of "right" & wrong"& "good or bad" according to what we have learned.I have learned that a judgement is otherwise known as a conclusion, a formulation of a like or dislike which extends to holding that personal belief against another, which is where the presenting issue is. However, the deeper real issue is that the person n front of you, who you are judging is actually a reminder, an in the moment manifestation,a reflection of something inside of you, which you are unconscious of that bothers, hurts or triggers you for some unknown reason. This is most likely an indicator of a trapped emotion. An old emotional energy trapped within your body that wants to be Acknowledged. To better understand your reaction to the person in front of you simply asks yourself: "What is that person in front of me setting off within me?" ,"How do I feel?" "Where in my body do I feel tight, tense, etc?" "What thoughts crossed my mind", "What does this situation remind me of?" Once you have more Awareness around your own experience you will be able to Allow situations in the future to not upset you, be more responsive rather than reactive and not blame the person in front of you for being who they are. When one Allows another to have such power over their reactions it is very dis-empowering to Self. Caveat: Realistically, don't expect this process to be a one time deal. Additionally, you may need support in making this change. If so you know where to find me www.ComfortCoachingConnection ;) .
In the meantime,
even if you don't like the Person in Front of You: Be respectfully compassionate or else you are hurting both yourself and others!

I was inspired to write this blog today after reading a regular email I receive daily from www.Heavenletters.org. Below is a copy with their permission if you care to entertain a different perspective of The Person in Front of You.
Sincerely in Spirit,
Sharon
 
Heavenletter #5152 The Person in Front of You, January 2, 2015
God said:

When you are loved by the Creator of the Universe – and I most assuredly do love every which one of you – how then can you be anything less than gracious to everyone you meet? The only way you can be less than gracious is that you forget to be gracious. You forget that I have assigned you as the Welcomer of All in the Universe I created. This isn’t an assignment to take lightly. A Welcomer welcomes. That’s it.

The welcoming does not depend upon superficial impressions. It is not dependent upon your mood. It does not depend upon how much you have to do. It depends upon nothing but your willingness to act on My behalf.

And, so, you are to welcome everyone with good grace and without petulance or grievousness or impatience or haste. Whether you spend one minute or forty-five minutes, you pass on a gracious welcome. What good is a Welcome to the Universe without graciousness? It is no welcome at all.

Impatience isn’t welcoming. Trying to change someone’s ways isn’t welcoming. You are not to welcome anyone by suggesting they enter another door. This isn’t about the one you welcome welcoming you. You are the Welcomer.

You do not have to say Yes to everything, yet you are to be gracious. That’s how it is. Whether you welcome one or a million to the world, you are gracious. You communicate welcome and not correction.

If you think this is difficult to do, then think again and learn to make it easy.

I ask you to uplift everyone before you. If you cannot uplift, then, at the least, you are not to put down anyone I set before you.
I set only treasures before you no matter how the person before you may appear to you. In any case, this position of yours is about you and not anyone else. I hired you in trust, and you are to reflect My trust and fulfill it. In you I trust.

Do you know what is less than graciousness? It is rudeness. Life can be lived very well without rudeness. And what is rudeness but impatience? Life can be lived very well without impatience.
The Welcomers that I hire have to be humble. They are to give service, kindly service, gentle service. It is a child of Mine that you are greeting. Hold gratitude and respect high.

Someone else may get away with overlooking the heart of another, but not you. You are to lift the eyes of another. This is incumbent upon you.

People are not fleas that you are to get away from you and consider disposable. Not one human heart is to be set aside. It does not cost more to be genial than impatient. It is a different energy. You can’t get away with impatience anyway, and, for Heaven’s sakes, why would you deign to choose impatience over geniality in the first place?

There is never an excuse for dismissing anyone as if he were insignificant. The person before you is worth everything to Me. Feeling grumpy is not a reason for you to ignore anyone’s worth. Having a headache is not a reason. There is no reason to forget your manners. Look, whatever you may feel at a particular moment, you can still be of good cheer.

Make living in the world worthwhile for someone else as well as yourself. I’m sure you are not telling Me that I am asking too much of you. I’m sure you’re not. Beloveds, this is the least I ask of you -- to be courteous. I would like to point out that the person you are greeting IS yourself.

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